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Courtesy vs. Politeness

Kindness that is often active and gracious versus formal good manners in interaction.

The comparisoni

✗ Wrong

He opened the door out of politeness.

✓ Correct

He opened the door as a courtesy — courtesy is kindness in action. Politeness is the observance of social convention.

The ruleii

COURTESY = kindness. POLITENESS = convention.

POLITENESS is observance of social convention — saying please and thank you, not interrupting. COURTESY is a subset, with warmth — an active kindness or grace beyond bare convention (holding the door, writing a thank-you note). You can be polite without being courteous; the reverse is hard.

Memory aidiii

Remember it like this

Polite = rules. Courtesy = warmth.

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